Relatedly: Select photos where you can actually see what you look like.
Remember, the whole point of your photo is for someone to evaluate whether or not they want to sex you.
The obvious points of picking photos are to make them (1) flattering, and (2) accurate.
That photo where your skin looks all glowy and you can’t see your cankles? But the photo from 6 years, 25 pounds and two high-stress jobs ago?
Choosing your profile pics this way has been shown to significantly increase match rates and match quality.
I spend lots of time in this column and over at A(n)nals of Online Dating documenting the worst of the worst internet daters. But there are also some really good ones — and some mediocre ones that could be so much better if not for rookie mistakes.
What are the best keywords to describe what “you” are, and what you’re into? There’s no sense in hiding your quirkiness or nerdom.
Your bio is just an ad, so you want to pique interest, and leave the meaty getting-to-know-you stuff for chats and dates. Heather, 22 I’ll have what she’s having (When Harry Met Sally quote) Derek, 25 Life moves pretty fast.
I’m sure I mentioned it like 56 times in my profile, but just in case you missed it, here is me in Laos. Love it.” Think beyond “this is a cool / funny / flattering photo that I like” and ask yourself, “How is a total stranger going to view me and my life when they look at this photo? This one should be obvious, but unfortunately it’s not. The exception to this rule: You are a moron who would like to attract other morons. One very reliable red flag on online dating sites: People who list the age range of people they’ll date as significantly younger or significantly older, but not overlapping with their own.
This is, unsurprisingly, pretty strongly gendered: There are tons of men who are, say, 36, and list their dating age range from 20 – 35, or women who are 28 and list their dating age range from 29 – 44.
If your pics don’t look good, your dating profile doesn’t stand a chance at getting much notice, unfortunately.