I grew up as a missionary kid in Singapore; David grew up in a middle-class suburban home with a pool in the Midwest.My served me homemade kimchi and chili-laden noodles; he dined on Cap’n Crunch and Mom’s buttered knepfle and can’t eat anything mildly spicy without hyperventilating.From the pit of my gut came complex feelings of irritation, fear, and ... I traced those feelings back to when I first arrived in the United States as a teenage immigrant.
The third article was written by a Latino man who felt pressured by today’s “woke” society to stop dating white women.
The basic idea is that “racial dating preferences” is just a code word for racial stereotypes and prejudices, such as the degradation of black women, the criminalization of black and Latino men, and the feminization of Asian men in Hollywood and the media, trends that sociologists trace back to colonialism.
These are confusing times when it comes to racial issues, and I’d like to address one subtopic that’s gained attention: interracial couples—or more specifically, the increasingly criticized trend of Asian women dating white men.
It’s a divisive issue fraught with emotion and misunderstanding, and weighed down with historical, cultural, and social baggage.
I think it’s good to be self-aware and educated on such matters … Recently, a friend sent me an podcast episode in which an Asian American woman interviews another Asian American woman who mostly dates white men.
When Asian men harassed her online for her “racist” dating habits, she felt badly about herself, so she decided to stop dating white men and intentionally date non-white men.When I was dating a Jewish guy, I started noticing that there were a lot of couples like us: white or Jewish man, Asian woman.And there’s this stereotype of Asian women who date white guys—that they’re dating them because they worship whiteness, because they despise their own Asianness.” Then she got very honest: “When I see other Asian-female/white-male couples, I instinctively stereotype them.It’s also one I’ve hesitated to write about, partly because I didn’t know what to think about it myself.You see, I’ve been seeing more articles with clickbait titles such as “The Alt-Right’s Asian Fetish,” “I’m an Asian Woman Engaged to a White Man and, Honestly, I’m Struggling With That,” and “I Broke Up With Her Because She’s White.” According to the first two authors, the prevalent trend of Asian women dating and marrying white men is problematic because it harkens to a long history of white supremacism.Today, people are free to date and marry whomever they want, regardless of skin color—yet somehow, we’re still slapping taboos on certain kinds of interracial dating.