The couple should be able to enjoy the blessings of God as well as family and friends as they move into a marriage that has been well planned and confirmed in a healthy process.
You need to know “what they are really like” before you move into a marital relationship. The couple has spent a good deal of time building their Christian dating relationship.
They mutually agree that this relationship has the great potential of moving into marriage.
It is more important that the process be completed than the time completed. Marital inventories and temperament sorting should be taken at this stage.
These are a wonderful means of finding out which areas you are really in “sync” and where you are apart.
But character is the foundation upon which commitment is built.
Character does not change just because one gets married.
The Myers-Briggs temperament sorting is another excellent source of information that each person should know about themselves and each other.) 3.
At least 4 sessions should be spent with a Christian counselor who is trained in pre-marital counseling.
It is important that there be a “pre” engagement period of time.
There is no set time frame for a pre-engagement period.
This plan will include such things as spending time around family and close friends to enable each other to see how the other person builds and sustains all relationships. I do not suggest that the couple spend all their time together at this stage.