“I’ve gone on a date after talking to someone for half an hour. I’ll share what I feel like sharing, and you figure out the rest.”But that anonymity makes safety a more pressing concern.
What they reported back to us, for instance, may not always have been entirely the truth.
One admitted that she wasn’t physically attracted to her match right off the bat but didn’t want to state that harsh reality in the column.
Even after an ill-fated evening with a van-dwelling comedian, singer-songwriter Kayla Mercuri, 24, retains her faith in the blind date concept. “That was kind of why I went on the date — to find out if they would tell me something that other past dates hadn’t told me before,” says Ashley Slay, whose date described the 29-year-old social worker as “too logical.” She gleaned a valuable life lesson from the experience: Be more open-minded about potential dates. “I’ve been ghosted before; I’ve ghosted people before.
After all, she says, “It worked for Meghan Markle and Prince Harry! “Maybe he wouldn’t be someone I was physically attracted to, or had things in common with, but let me give it a shot. “I interpreted it as this great date, and he was like, ‘She was so cold.’ I brought that to my therapist. I need to be warmer, so people interpret me differently.’”Our singles agreed that the number one pitfall of modern dating is ghosting — having your love interest vanish without explanation. It’s not a cool thing to do, but it happens because of this swipe culture.
(Cupid daters learn only their date’s first name beforehand and don’t see a photo — and no contact information is shared unless they choose to do so.) They know how to reverse search a cellphone number or do a Google reverse image search on a profile picture.
“The rule in my house [is], if someone is going on an apps date, they tell us where they are going, and if they go back to their house, they text us the address,” says Kathryn Peneyra, one of the rare daters who did go out a few more times with her match.
”No regrets, confirms Jayme Lee, 28, whose “awkward” encounter flamed out after he crushed his match at three games of pool. That’s a philosophy I would take into other dates.”Lesley Mc Gee, 28, also gained insight after she gave her outing an A- and expressed interest in a second date with her match; he shot her down. Now, if something doesn’t work out, I text and tell them, ‘Hey, it was great meeting you, but I just don’t think this is going to work out.’”Emily’s aggressive response to ghosting left her fellow daters in awe.
“That backfired, much like my dating life,” he quips. “I don’t get ghosted — I don’t allow them to,” she says. To be honest, I don’t want to add guys I date on social media because it makes it too complex.”Dating a stranger seems to be a double-edged sword.
” says Emily Kanzer, 27, who was improbably matched with a handsome man she’d met when he was her Lyft driver.
Despite the questionable results, the small group at the reunion reminisced fondly about the experience. Our singles agreed that one of the most valuable, if a bit painful, aspects of the Cupid experience was the unvarnished public critique of their dating style, whether from what their match said about them in our write-up or from the online community of opinionated commenters.
We’ve been stood up, ghosted by daters who dined on our dime and were never heard from again, and snookered by those who showed up looking nothing like their profile pictures.