Parents and youth workers can play an important role in equipping kids to navigate the dating years.
Here are some things we can do: Far too many Christian adolescents don’t have a clue that there is a better way to relate to the opposite sex than what the world shows us. This means that we are called to treat the opposite sex with a special kind of respect because Christ lives within them.
My young teen boys are perfectly happy having their “girlfriend” come over to the house and have dinner with the family and then watch movies or play games in the family room with the entire family. I know that many people think this is a horrible reason to allow your kids to do anything. The key is finding the way to say it so they will listen.
Except that in this instance, I have seen time and time again parents who refuse to allow their kids to date and kids who lie, sneak around and do it anyway. One of my sons briefly had a girlfriend that was always angry at him for something.
This may just be one of the most important lessons related to living out the "Purity Code".
As you are aware, there really is a major difference between the world’s philosophy about dating and the Christian approach.
Dear Chris, Some of my children’s friends have started dating.
We have told our daughter that we don’t want her to date.
The apostle Paul summed up the Christian attitude when he said: Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves.
Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.
And like so many other things that I was so certain about, I changed my mind. You may be surprised by what your 13, 14, or 15 yr old considers . Let them have their girlfriend or boyfriend over to the house while you are home. Get to know the other kid’s parents and what his/her home life is like. I have gone to the movies with my son’s girlfriend’s family, out to casual dinners, the amusement park.
To my ancient mind, the term dating conjures up images of unsupervised alone time. Once they can drive they will be off going places and you probably won’t know where half the time.
If you are providing at least some time when kids can hang out and talk, that’s really all you need to do. Still, typically, there will be some students who are shy or haven’t yet developed the social skills necessary to initiate a conversation with a person of the opposite sex.