Long-distance relationships take a lot of effort, and if both parties aren’t devoted to doing whatever it takes to make it work, the extra effort required to keep up the relationship may be a waste of time and energy.
After you’ve agreed upon that, the key to making your relationship work is communication.
“You don’t have much to lose if you have consistent, clear communication about what’s going on and how you’re both feeling,” she explains.
“Long-distance relationships are seldom easy to maintain,” Dr.
Suzana Flores, clinical psychologist and author of , tells Bustle.
” Do you trust your partner enough to be able to ward off those anxious thoughts?
Finally, be realistic about your expectations in terms of how often you’ll see each other. Dardashti tells us that while some people are fine without seeing their partners for long stretches of time, “other people need the physical contact to feel like they are connected.” Figure out how often you’d like to see your partner in an ideal world, then decide how realistic that is, given your finances and schedule.Being in a relationship has brought joyful laughter and made happy memories; however, there will always be challenges to face and lessons to learn—especially when you’re in a relationship with someone who lives 4 hours away. Here are several lessons I have learned (with God’s help! There have been occasions when we’ve been talking on the phone and I may or may not start talking too much (I can be a talkative girl – what can I say! That being said, the most important piece of communicating with each other is to listen to each other’s thoughts and perspectives.I have learned a lot about Scott as well as changed my way of thinking in certain situations because of listening to what he has to share.Long-distance relationships aren't easy, but you can get through it.Making an effort to see each other when you can and remember that it's crucial to keep your lives busy — but, more than anything, it's important to keep the communication flowing, because that will make everything else so much easier.It's no secret that long-distance relationships are tricky — and many of us have have tried to make them work and not been successful.