I don’t know if these men are just HORRIBLE at conversation or just aren’t that interested in me (probably some of both depending on the person), but either way, in case people genuinely don’t know, I thought I would write some tips on having a conversation.
Something I don’t think grown-ass people should need a lesson in, but apparently they do. Before I get started, I want to say, that I am a very straightforward person, who has no time or interest in the “games” or “rules” of dating.
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And to be fair, my male friends say women are just as bad, if not worse, and I don’t doubt that for a second.
But, I date men, so my experience is only with men; however, I think a lot of what I am saying can be applied to any gender.
But, for the most part, I consider myself someone who can talk about a variety of subjects, with a variety of people.
I never realized how much “like attracts like” in that I am often surrounded by people who are similarly skilled at conversing.
I’m not going to spam you with interview-style questions just because you can’t even give me a starting point.
Exhibit B: A very common thing I notice is that men love to complain that women send boring openers on bumble (which is fair, women frequently complain about the boring openers that men send on every other app).
A few month ago I wrote a “how to ask a woman out from a dating app” guide for men, but lately I have realized that people need even more basic instructions than that.
They need to know simple tips for having a normal conversation.
I have no issue with messaging first, even on non-Bumble apps, and I don’t even mind leading the conversation to an extent.