It’s not much different from finding the right pair of shoes.
According to the world, dating is a way for singles to enjoy the comforts and pleasures of the opposite sex.
If marriage is in the picture at all, then dating is a tryout for a potential partner.
Yet lately, as I kiss them goodnight and tuck them into bed, there comes to my mind a very critical question, “what will happen to them in the years to come as they discover boys? Thankfully my youngest girl is only 4 and she thinks boys are pests and only slightly above the worms they chase her with. But my 9 year old is only a few years away from what the world calls the “dating scene”, and my heart trembles with what I see as an example within the Reformed Church.
For some reason, much of the Reformed community scratches their heads in bewilderment when you bring up the subject of dating.
Only after repeated attempts, and many visits, would he even consider this proposal. to find out that one of their children has a boyfriend or girlfriend (usually over dinner or on the way out the door).
Somehow, over the years, we have adopted the world’s mentality that dating is simply a part of growing up, and hopefully we have taught our young people enough of the Bible to govern their actions. Obviously if we let them out that door, we have failed them and our Lord on a rather large scale.
Fathers, it is your job to protect your daughters, in the face of tears, arguments, and fainting fits.
We are not given to them to be popular, or their friends, More harm comes to many of us through dating than in any other way.
This is the cause of untold pain in our world today, and Christians need to respond to affairs of the heart with respect, with care, and with the wisdom that God is able to give. In absence of the father, a Courtship is the biblical model we are to follow.
The difference between dating and courtship is striking.
If we don’t treat our own and others’ hearts carefully, there will be a lot of pain and bleeding. Not only does this system teach our youth to give themselves emotionally to someone whom they will never marry, it sets the groundwork for divorce by cultivating a dissatisfaction for what has been given to them, longing to try something different or “better”.