This is a sign that the guy is going to shift the blame on you, even when he’s at fault.
This isn’t a redeeming quality, and it’s a clear red flag that needs to be addressed.
Either way, if he can’t accept his own wrongdoing, it’s best to part ways.
This is a guy who doesn’t care about anyone but himself, simply because he doesn’t even try to meet you halfway on anything.
Don’t expect this level of self-centeredness to change. If he keeps saying he can’t pay for dates that he wants to go on, he keeps asking you for favors, or he’s already pressuring you to let him move in, he’s a user. Having a crappy past doesn’t mean you can take it out on innocent people. If a guy does this, he’s living #jerklife 24/7, and that is not going to change.
If a guy isn't mature, you're going to figure that out ASAP and it's not going to be a pretty situation. Life is pretty tiring and our modern schedules are pretty exhausting and ridiculous.
You really don't want to date an immature guy, but unfortunately, you're going to encounter a whole bunch of them on your path to finding the right one. You probably want to get out now and find someone who actually behaves like an adult. You might just think that this guy is going through a rough time or that something's going on, but the truth is that he's just a jerk and he's way too immature to be with you. You're on your i Phones before you even get out of bed in the morning, let alone get to the office, and you're working a full day plus probably bringing some work home at night or at least on some weekends.
You want him to turn your bad mood around, no matter what's going on.
You want him to make you laugh until your sides hurt, to get along with your family and friends, and to support you 24/7.
Really, do you want to deal with a guy who manipulates and guilt trips a girl? He’s testing the waters to see how much garbage you’ll put up with. Toss out the garbage (in this case, the man), and continue with a nice life.
So far, he’s put zero effort into making you happy.
He should be moving forward with his life instead of staying at the same old job and complaining about it all the time.