I am so thankful for the women like you that are so level headed. Sad thing is that she is still there, living a lie with a man that had 2 lives for 10 months. I moved in with a friedn and I was gone about three months when he calls me out of the blue,,saying I wannan chill with you can we hang out,,,of course I said ya, so we started doing things together, and it was fun like when we first met,,, I told him I didnt want to gt back together because I knew he would just hurt me again,,,,so we just dated untill I found out I was pregnant then he begged me to get back together and work it out,,,,so still being in love with him I tried,,,but things went bad quick,,,,,,,being with him thoes couple months opened my eyes and i saw what evreyone else saw,,,,,a loser that was using me,,,,,,, Im just saying that It took me six years to see him as he really is and it might take his wife a long time to.......will eventually see it when he does it to her again,,,and believe me he willl,,,,,,,,im blabbing on and on,,,,,,im young to and been through alot,,im only 21,,,we were married young,,,,,my mom always told me i wanted to grow up tp fast ,,,, Hey foxy- I know exactly what you are going thru.. His wife knows everything and she don't want him to have anything to do with the baby.. My beautiful lil girl don't need a father in her life that's going to be like that.. but if they want to deal with there husbands cheating let them..
First, I would encourage you to explore why you are having such difficulty accepting the fact your boyfriend already has children. Relationships can be quite complicated when only two people are involved—each person brings his or her own unique goals, dreams, and expectations, as well as wounds from previous relationships. Add three children and their mother to the mix and things can get very complicated, very quickly.
But the question for you is, how are you experiencing this? Do you get along well with them or is there a lot of tension between you?
I can, however, suggest some areas for you to explore as you consider your next steps.
As is often true with relationships, it is a bit more complicated than that.
Good is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice, diagnosis, medical treatment, or therapy.
Always seek the advice of your physician or qualified mental health provider with any questions you may have regarding any mental health symptom or medical condition.What will your role with his three children be and what are your thoughts and feelings on that role?Sit with these questions, allow others to arise, and be brutally honest with yourself in answering them.Thank you again for writing in with a question that surely resonates with many.I wish you courage in the process of sorting this out and peace with whatever choice you make.Share with him what arose for you in your exploration of this very serious issue.