Often times even small signs can be a red flag for future problems, and abusers often become more intense if they feel in control, and that you will not take action.
Relationship abuse is a pattern of behavior used to establish power and control over another person through fear, intimidation, and power. Abuse occurs when one person believes that he or she is entitled to control another.
Pretty much everyone deals with jealous, controlling or over-bearing traits of significant others from time to time, but how can you tell if your relationship is abusive or border-line abusive?
It’s a difficult thing to pin down, and a lot has to do with your personal feelings, however the things in this list especially when combined can be warning signs that you are in an emotionally abusive or physically abusive relationship.
Something will happen to trigger the physical and sexual attacks and threats. Why do they have such a need for power and control?
The woman hopes that the relationship will change, knowing that it didn't begin like this. During this "honeymoon period," the abuser might apologize, blame the woman or other circumstances, promise to change, or give gifts. Some people will tell you that it's because they have a domineering personality, or low self-esteem, or a bad temper, or because they see women as possessions, or because they abuse substances.
This often happens in unbalanced relationships--where there is unequal power.
One person always "gives," and the other always "takes." Sexual coercion can take many forms: The Violence Wheel helps to link the different behaviors that together form a pattern of violence and shows how the violence is maintained through psychological abuse.Tension begins to build in the relationship when the abuser starts criticizing, yelling, swearing, and using angry gestures, coercion, and threats--often threats to kill her and her children or her family.The woman fears that the threats will become a reality but feels helpless to do anything about it.Finally, it may become life-threatening, with serious behaviors such as choking, breaking bones, or the use of weapons.The cycle of violence is a pattern made up of three stages--Tension Building, Violence, and Seduction/Honeymoon.In response to this honeymoon period, the woman feels a renewal of love for the abuser. And although these and other factors may be present, there is a deeper reason.