Almost all courting took place in the girl's home, under the eye of watchful parents.
Frequently the tribe from which a warrior stole a bride would come looking for her, and it was necessary for the warrior and his new wife to go into hiding to avoid being discovered.
According to an old French custom, as the moon went through all its phases the couple drank a brew called metheglin, which was made from honey. Arranged marriages were the norm, primarily business relationships born out of the desire and/or need for property, monetary or political alliances.
Besides being a component of an ancient male code of honor and machismo called chivalry, it was just plain common sense.
It’s the man’s responsibility to see to it that the woman he has asked to meet gets home safely.
It’s polite to get the door moving, making easier for the woman who follows you. Here in Jersey City, there are many ways to travel: Uber, busses, cabs and trains, to name a few. Of course, it’s always nice to offer, but don’t insist on picking her up or dropping her off.
Women need to feel safe and sometimes, she’s more comfortable not having you know exactly where she lives after the first date.
Many women think that by making eye contact, smiling or starting a conversation that they are flipping the rules of chivalry but the reality is that the actions of modern women have made many men reluctant and fearful of approaching even if they are interested.” I have had many of my female clients tell me that they never meet eyes or smile or talk to a guy because “it’s the man’s job to come talk to me.” That’s inane.
You making sure that you are inviting does not lessen you or make the man not want to pursue you.
Smitten couples rarely saw each other without the presence of a chaperone, and marriage proposals were frequently written.
Originally published in The Jersey Journal Dating can always be a harrowing adventure. But it can also be cause for confusion, frustration and miscommunication.
“He wants to win the girl, not get her because of what he does for her.