NOTE: You can be in an emotionally abusive relationship with a boyfriend or girlfriend, husband or wife, male or female friend, family member, boss or co-worker.
An abuser’s goal is to affect and control the emotions, objective reasoning, and the behavior of his victim.
This kind of abuse happens on a psychological level; warping the minds of even the strongest people.
The abuser fosters an atmosphere of fear, intimidation, instability, and unpredictability.
He steadily pushes you to the edge with his deception, sarcasm, and battering until you erupt in anger and then you become the “bad guy” giving him the ammunition he needs to justify his hurtful actions.
That might be concerning, but I’m not alone; over half the population has experienced some form of emotional abuse at least once during their lives.
Even though physical abuse has more deadly outcomes, emotional abuse is harder to detect and therefore considered harmful. It is defined as “any nonphysical behavior or attitude that is designed to control, subdue, punish, or isolate another person through the use of humiliation or fear,” according to psychologist Beverly Engel.
His disfigures the truth, causing you to mistrust your perception and the reality of his abuse.
Disparaging humor: Verbal abuse is often disguised as jokes.If you are experiencing any of the following things, you’re in an emotionally abusive relationship: Accusing and blaming: He shifts the responsibility and the emphasis onto you for the problems in your relationship.He says things, like: “It’s your fault.” What’s wrong with you?Covert abuse is disguised by actions that appear normal, but it is clearly insidious and underhanded.The abuser methodically chips away at your confidence, perception, and self-worth with his subtle hints, unnecessary lying, blaming, accusing, and denial.He withholds approval, appreciation, affection, information, thoughts and feelings to diminish and control you.