A therapist may be able to provide perspective that neither of you can manage on your own.You may find that, despite depression, the relationship is worth saving.
Trying to sustain a relationship with a depressed person can make the healthy partner feel helpless and more than a little hopeless at times. If this is the case, walking away may be your only choice.
If you feel you simply can’t go on, it may be time to sever ties. Your children’s emotional well-being and physical safety must be your first priority.
Otherwise you may be consumed by guilt or self-doubt, wondering if you did all you could do for your partner — and your relationship.
You are not the cause of your partner’s depression.
Sometimes there’s nothing more you can do but say goodbye — for the sake of your own mental health.
Before it comes to that, for your own sake and the sake of your partner, you should be sure you’ve done all you can to salvage the relationship.
While the decision to leave or not will undoubtedly be emotional, keep in mind that decisions made in anger are rarely wise ones.
If things seem unbearable, consider setting a timetable for change.
You cannot be the one who makes your partner decide whether or not they want to live or die. Attempting to “save” your partner by staying with them can only make the relationship more dysfunctional and could ultimately result in you resenting them.