I havent heard from him since, this was last saturday may 26, and i havent tried to contact him either, nothing, no emails, no text no calls, no drunk dialing or text terrorism as you say it jajaj, ive stayed calm and havent done anything. And today i am kind of down because we met on match.com, and today out of curiosity i saw that he was there and that he has been active for the last 24 hours, so it put me down a bit, i dont even know if that means anything or not. It's possible that he is being honest with you and that he does really value you and the time you spend together.
I kind of want your advice on what to do, is what i am doing ok, will he ever come back begging me to give him another chance, that he actually does want a realtionship with me and to forgive him if he said anything to hurt me. It is possible that he wanted to see if this would lead to a deeper relationship or deeper feelings.
To me, this time spent meant that either we had gotten comfortable just dating and were subconsciously tied to just that, or simply put, maybe he just wasn’t into me.
If it hadn’t happened in 365 days, what made me think that on day 366, my year-long wish would be granted?
Situations like this one influenced my decision to develop my own six-month rule.
Since you did walk away from him, it is possible that he feels like the door is shut as far as his chances with you, which could be his motivation for getting back on the dating site.
Despite that, it is possible that the time apart will make him realize that he does want to be with you, so you still may have done the right thing in walking away for now in the hopes that he figures out how he feels.
Of course, being official or unofficial are just words, and ultimately titles don’t make relationships…but commitments do.
So if a man can’t figure out if he wants to officially commit to me after months of serious dating, I choose to believe he won’t decide by me lingering around “playing” girlfriend for too long.
Cutting to the chase, i want to know what should i do!!!!! However, at this point it doesn't sound like he knows exactly what he wants or what he is looking for, and because of that you have every right to protect yourself and your emotions from getting hurt and it seems very understandable to have handled this as you did.
It does seem like there had to be connection there in order for him to want to spend all of this time with you, but I can understand why you would be upset about him being back on
Just like any situation with the opposite sex, there are exceptions to the rule, because there is no one-size-fits-all set of rules for every relationship; but being unofficial for too long while one person wants more is usually a situation destined for disaster.
Someone’s feelings will end up hurt if it drags on too long.
I’ve chosen to be proactive and make every attempt to prevent those crushed feelings from being my own.