“The reality is that if your relationship is on strong ground, if the partner is not listless or questioning, you should be able to make it through these times and events unscathed.” Don’t worry!
He tracked married and unmarried straight and gay couples to peek at what time does to partnerships, and it looks as though the chances for breakup come way down after a few years.
By five years in, most couples only had a 20 percent breakup rate, and by 10, they come down even more.
So why is it that people are so prone to splits in the beginning?
Here's what nine relationships experts had to say about the matter.“The first year of a relationship can be a very exciting time, but it doesn't come without challenges,” Bizzoco tells Bustle.
“You can't run around like this forever, and eventually you are going to need your brain back,” she says.
“The re-activation occurs between one and three years.” At this point, you see your partner for who they are.
“A relationship begins with projection, which means you don't see who the other person is, just who you want them to be,” she says.
“The next stage is disillusionment, where you see who they really are and not your fantasy, which is why people break up in the three-to-nine-month window.”And then, of course, there’s the final stage: “There's a power struggle or conflict,” she says.
“This point is really critical because you will definitely see this person’s character,” she says.
“Either you will be really attracted to them or exceptionally turned off, By this point, they are so invested they are spending the rest of the year trying to hope away your flaws.” Oh, dear.“Researchers in London discovered that when you fall in love, certain parts of your brain deactivate,” Dawn Maslar, aka “the Love Biologist,” tells Bustle.
“It takes more than a year to truly know if you and your partner are compatible; however, it takes less than a year to know if your partner is worth the effort of love.” They might be worth the effort, but if you aren’t compatible, you won’t likely last the test of time.