Dating saying too much too soon

Enjoy every moment of your new relationship and remember there is no hurry to move onto the next stage.

Be sensitive to the other person’s feelings and don’t try and rush them along in the relationship before they’re ready.

What I am saying is that you should stop giving a free pass to every cute guy who doesn’t call in a timely fashion…and start valuing the very guys who make you feel special. I’ve had two experiences when the guys were in love within 2-3 weeks of nothing but phone calls and e-mails, not yet meeting, and not really even knowing me.

I’ve had the flip side where they start to pull away, send mixed signals, or become ambivalent, and it made me anxious, and no matter how hard I tried to stifle that I’m sure the vibe was there.

Telling all your friends, posting status updates about true love or talking incessantly to colleagues about your new beau may leave you feeling foolish if things don’t work out.

Just hold back a little, at least until you’ve had six dates, before you declare this to be ‘the one’.

These are just examples, but what is important is that you get into the habit of saying out loud the nice appreciative things that you may often think but not tell people – you’ll make their day.

One of the biggest mistakes people make at the beginning of a new relationship is casting aside the rest of their life and devoting all their time and attention to their new love interest.

Right from the beginning when you’re chatting online, show your appreciation by saying things like ‘thank you’ for compliments or ‘it’s been lovely talking to you, you made me smile.’ .

If a date chooses somewhere good for a date tell them you appreciate their choice; if they have nice manners say that – tell people when you enjoy their company; if the colour of their outfit highlights the colour of their eyes; if something they did or said made you feel happy.

”This doesn’t mean you’re suddenly going to be attracted to the stalker-guy.

I’m not advocating that you remove the restraining order. I’ve dealt with both ends of the spectrum but never the middle ground.

What’s most important is not how a guy makes you feel on a date.

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