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In other words, don't hightail it home after a few good dates with someone and delete your Tinder or Ok Cupid profiles forever, because you just might wish you'd waited a bit longer.
That said, you certainly don't wait to wait too long — if you and your partner are ready to get serious together, it won't feel good if one (or both!
If it's time to stop hedging your bets, sit down and have a chat about it."When you decide to be committed, after a reasonable time where you are not seeing others, and it should be an independent decision, with no expectations," zen psychotherapist and neuromarketing strategist Michele Paiva tells Bustle.
"If you are committed, you will trust that they will delete when it feels right to them." But if you don't want to wait for them to bring it up, do it yourself — just don't rush or force things.
There's no reason to press fast-forward, especially if you're really into this person."If it seems like a long time, it’s because this is what people who are serious about finding 'the one' do: They take the relationships seriously and don’t jump into something that starts fast, and ends on a crash and burn note." Slow and steady wins the race here. "When you mutually decide to be exclusive with each other, sit down together and delete both your profiles at the same time." You'll take the step together — and you'll know absolutely that your partner has deleted their profile, and they will know the same.
Plus, it'll feel more momentous if you do it together."Only after there’s been a conversation about exclusivity," relationship coach and therapist Anita Chlipala tells Bustle."[When] you truly believe it can be going somewhere, this is a fair time for each of you to ask the other to deactivate or delete their profile."But don't jump the gun."Until such a time that things are monogamous and serious, it would not be fair for either of you to make that request," she says."If you both believe that you are not giving the relationship a chance by not deleting them, then that seems like a fair and mutual decision." When you get to the point where it is no longer cool that you're getting 2 a.m."hey" messages from randos on the internet, delete your profile — and ask your new partner to do the same."If things are just fun and games between the two of you, and you know that there's no lasting connection, then there is really no need to remove your profile," relationship coach and psychic medium Cindi Sansone-Braff, author of , tells Bustle."It sometimes takes a while for a person to give up their profile on a dating site, as they also are removing all their messages, contacts and potential for one person," Van Hochman says.