But for the most part, suggesting a range of fun things that don’t become repetitive could get him out of his set ways slowly but surely. Like I said, if you allow it, things can get pretty dull.
While I love me some him, my partner has no problem with chilling indoors all day, catching up on his taped shows and eating the same rice dish every week. Feel free to encourage an opportunity for the both of you to cook together. Hit up a cute wine bar and talk about more than work.
He’s busy studying for a major exam that will allow him to work for whomever he wants and to make the kind of moves and money I probably won’t ever see (hey, columnists weren’t meant to be millionaires).
Maybe he's 30 and you are 20, but he is just as confused about his life as you are about yours.
It might be scary having a 10-year difference in age, but you both are experiencing similar things in life.
Joking from time to time is cool, but don’t get too comfortable trying to blame certain issues on his age.
(“Just because you’re 44 and you don’t like to do ___ doesn’t mean ___.”) Just as you wouldn’t want him to continuously blame certain things you do on your age (like you’re a child), I wouldn’t recommend doing the same. An older man might know what he wants for himself in the next span of years, but so do his family members.
I know a woman who dates an older man, and he jumps from profession to profession while trying to make a career in music take off.
But the guy I’m dating is focused on taking his career to the next level.Don’t start changing things about yourself to mold into wifey-material, just because he knows he wants to settle down soon.It’s okay to take interest in things he has a passion for, but don’t start doing things you know you can’t stand to make a good impression. All that *I know you can read my mind so you should know I’m hella pissed* way of doing things could get you ignored by an older man real quick. So if you’re upset about something substantial, don’t be afraid to calm yourself down, open your mouth and let it be known that you’ve been hurt by his actions.And, that is why when we start developing feelings for people outside of our age brackets, we think our feelings are wrong.We often put up walls and flee for the mountains, but before shutting the door on the chance at love, think about your potential lover's maturity level.And if he likes a certain type of music or movie that is a bit “old” for you, don’t be too dramatic when he talks about his love for it (i.e. Don’t get too bent out of shape if a question is asked of you that you didn’t see coming (“When are you guys getting married?? Just be honest about the fact that you’re taking things slow (if that’s what you’re doing) and keep it cool (Or, “You gotta ask him” always works).