I learned the hard way that sometimes getting your stuff back from an ex (cough. That’s how those things called rebound relationships and hook-ups happen!
When you’re ready to date you won’t be looking to rush into anything new.
You can own up to the role you played in the breakup.
If you’re still blaming your ex for everything that went wrong in your relationship, you’re not ready to date yet. However, if getting back your treasured, perfectly worn hoodie or epic snow-globe collection is crucial to your sense of well-being, you need to get that crap back as soon as possible and You’ve reached the point where you’re no longer constantly talking or thinking about your ex. It’s totally normal to think about your ex and want to talk about the break up after it happens.
Do you want to date because you hate being alone, or because you feel connected to someone and want to spend time together?
I realize there’s never ONE reason to date, but if your main motive is to get married…then perhaps you’re dating out of desperation. We thrive when we’re in relationship with one another, when we love and feel loved in return. You may think you’ve healed from the breakup, but you may be ignoring your grief and loss.
Even though we’re all different, we’re also human – which means we have many things in common!
I believe the following signs it’s too soon to date again are the same for everyone.
Here’s what a reader says on my article about avoiding rebound love: “My boyfriend and I broke up three months ago.
I’m 36 years old, and ready to get married and have a family.
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Allow yourself to feel all the feelings – even the ugly ones that make you want to throw stuff against the wall.