“By self-care I mean treat yourself to a spa day, for example.
So just don’t bother connecting again.”Unfollow your ex on all social media platforms, Mc Cance says.“You may want to think about unfollowing any mutual friends or family of theirs that you may know,” she says.
“If not, it’ll lead you down a rabbit hole.”READ MORE: You may not realize you’re having an emotional affair – here’s how to tell Even if you unfollow them, you may still want to check in on them from time to time. Restrain the temptation and just move on.“It’s almost like self-punishment,” Mc Cance says.
Asking about mutual friends plays well into that, too. Nice place, John and I went there a few weeks back."Don't even bother clarifying who this "John" is.
Your ex will be jealous you're making memories with someone else now. Your ex is not stupid and will immediately catch that name drop. Even if you have a voodoo doll of this guy, make it seem like you are thrilled to see him on a platonic level.
Don’t do that – instead, make a list of all the reasons of why the relationship didn’t work out.
It will remind you of why you’re not with that person anymore and that you did make the right decision.“I wouldn’t even bring it up to your current partner,” Mc Cance says.
If you're totally unemployed and broke (I've been there), pull a Scarlett Johansson in "Vicky Cristina Barcelona," and say that you're "currently at liberty."Everyone wishes to be "currently at liberty." That also opens the door to mentioning your self-improvement projects.
Is your ex going to check out your body as he summons past images of you two having sex? Unless you're in the "eating ice cream and crying about the breakup" phase, it's very possible the breakup could be helping you get the body of your dreams. Even if you aren't and you just pound the treadmill at the gym, that counts.
Keep the conversation going, and know this is all your ex will be able to think about. Did you help an old lady cross the street last year? Treat him as if you were putting him in the friend-zone.