A lot of you come to me saying, “I don’t have any potential women in my life.” When I ask about your methods, I often learn that you HAVE opportunities, you just don’t capitalize on them! Or, you’re just plain oblivious to the “green lights” you’re getting from women.
You will either get ignored or become the friendly guy who gives her free attention.
New rule: “I will suggest meeting up with a girl within our first or second text exchange.” A lot of guys think they need to a woman to meet up with them from online dating.
It makes sense in theory — you’re strangers and you want to make her feel comfortable. You want to show her how similar you are and how you both love the same things.
But what you don’t realize is that women are on online dating to meet up with potential mates. You need to weed out the girls who just want someone to listen to them and aren’t serious about meeting up.
You do that by having a couple lighthearted, silly, or playful messages to get a laugh.
Once that’s been established, you need to push forward. Most women are in the “buying” mood while on the app and will make plans with a guy then and there.You also have no idea whether or not she’s interested, that’s just your insecurity speaking.These are women who were invested enough to willingly give you their number.New rule: “I will suggest meeting up with girls online by my 2nd-4th message.” The number one date recap I hear from guys goes something like this… We had so much in common, we laughed a lot, and had really good conversation. Now she won’t commit to coming out when I ask her for another date.” If they’re lucky, these guys end up getting an upfront rejection like, “I had a great time but I just don’t see us like that.” Most of the time, they don’t even get a response or the girl will never make concrete plans to meet up again until the guy gets the hint. So let me clear things up: It’s awesome that you had a friendly connection with a girl, but what about the sexual connection?Remember, you are on a , not a buddy-buddy hang out.By swiping yes to each other, you both already accept you find each other attractive.