Some people automatically make the assumption that everyone on the Internet is some kind of predator or criminal who will only hurt everyone they can actually meet, and there are others who simply think that anyone who builds deep connections over the Internet is a loser with no life.
Both generalizations are untrue and hurtful and unfortunately, there’s not much anyone can do to change someone else’s mind about those things.
Meeting an online love for the first time can be a little daunting considering you can no longer hide behind a computer monitor.
“, one of the key draws of Internet dating is the ability to find people who like the same stuff that you do.
Couples who lived apart tended to have fewer daily interactions, but those interactions were much longer and more meaningful as each person revealed more about themselves.
But what do you do when your online love doesn’t want to meet up?
Communication is key and something we’ve always stressed with any issue on our column here at The Hudsucker, so always be open and honest with the other.
You’ll find everything you need to know when you actually talk with them without any fear.
This week we hear from Jeremy of Denver, Colorado who is wondering why the girl he’s been involved with online for two years has been giving him excuses when it comes to meeting up. Jeremy, that is a really tough one, and I’m not sure what I can say to help you.
There are many possibilities as to why she may be hesitant.
As you’ve experienced yourself with your friends and your brother, your online love interest could probably be facing the same opposition from her family and friends about her feelings for you—another person only known through computer and phone screens—and meeting you.
Maybe she’s been burned before, or maybe she’s worried about ruining what you already have, in case the reality doesn’t match up to what’s in her head. You don’t want to pressure her, but equally, you don’t want to sit in limbo wondering where you stand.
Tell her how you feel, and if it’s meant to be, it’ll happen. Jeremy, I’m really sorry to hear about the frustration you are going through, especially about what happened at the coffee shop.
A lot of times, insecurity can pop in with one of the online lovers and deter them from wanting to meet up without them having the courage to say something.