Jad says he likes to think he’s more empathetic, and aware of his behaviour.
If you find yourself attracted to me, that has more to do with you than it ever will me. If you find yourself in a lucky situation in which you meet and are attracted to a man who is trans, take a deep breath and get ready for a pretty normal relationship. You will check your phone to see if he’s texted (he’s also looking at his phone for texts from you, probably.) You will go through the honeymoon-obsession-phase where you want to be with him, surrounded by his magic, all the time.
You will fight with him because he will irritate the crap out of you.
Looking back on it now, this came from a combination of gender dysphoria (a term used to describe discomfort at someone’s biological identity being different to their gender identity) and anxiety.
I'm not saying this is the case for everyone who identifies as asexual, but I had a lot of internalised transphobia.” They mention that this was because they felt “repulsed” by their biological form, but not understanding why.
Once I found the language to describe the discomfort I was feeling, I began to slowly love myself enough to start seeing myself as a sexual being.
At that point, I started realising that I was attracted to women.” Trans men go through different stages of transition.“Trying to find someone ‘willing’ to date a trans man is challenging, especially if you're pre-T (testosterone, a male hormone taken by trans men during physical transition) pre-op, etc.A lot of times I get, ‘Oh, sorry I'm not into girls’, which is incredibly frustrating,” K continues.I thought that if I said that I was asexual, then I would stop people from sexualising the body that I struggled with so much.” Many trans men who take T explain it’s like going through a ‘second puberty’.As well as physical changes like increased hair growth, periods stopping and even changes to muscle formation, there can also be some emotional changes too - just like being a teenager. Jad says, “It’s helpful to understand that when we begin hormone treatment, it is basically second puberty, so forgive us for acting like moody teenagers at times.” Just like a relationship between cis-gendered people, if you’re dating a trans man, it’s important to check in with each other about how you’re feeling.Thanks to incredible trans women like Munroe Bergdorf and Laverne Cox, more and more people are feeling empowered to change their biological form to match their gender identity.