But when he graduated from college, he found himself in a much more familiar generational story: Adrift, aimless, and recently dumped, he was living in Boston and working a low-level finance job he would later describe to Forbes as “nightmarish.”It was Manson’s attempts to get over that breakup, which looms large in his personal mythology, that led him to online dating advice forums, and then down the rabbit hole of pickup artistry proper.
Manson’s success, and the limits of his ideas, suggest that self-help alone might not be enough to cure what ails us.
What’s the role of a self-help guru when there’s so much happening in the world that’s outside any single person’s control?
“Most of what he talks about is the mindset to care for oneself and strive to improve.
Hate is energy better spent finding and enjoying activities you love,” said one.
“My ex-girlfriend’s mother was horrified,” he says now of his career change.
“She thought I was the spawn of Satan, and I was teaching little rapists.
These days, Manson seems to be living the millennial dream: At 35, he’s based in New York with his wife, Fernanda, whom he met while traveling (Everything Is Fucked is dedicated to her).
His job is meaningful, highly remunerative, and also flexible, creative, and cool.
His website, Mark Manson.net, which includes everything from his thoughts on dating (“Trust your partner.
It’s a radical idea, I know”) to America (“We know nothing about the rest of the world”) and self-improvement (“You can’t buy happiness and you can’t achieve happiness”), sees about 2 million readers a month.
Instead, it aims to, as the introduction says, “provide a model of what being an attractive man of integrity and maturity looks like in the 21st century.”Models was written after Manson had slept with, by his count, at least a hundred women, and spent a few years getting paid to take other men out drinking.