Having fixed ideas of what you want – which usually boil down to looks and little else – could be standing in your way of meeting some great guys.It’s time to think outside the box, look past the beards or muscles, and take chances.
I sit on a bench at the bus stop.) Him: You waiting for a bus now?
I’m sorry I called you a hypocrite – just how I see it.
Say what you like to do, who you want to be with, and why people should date you. This is becoming a bigger issue in the gay dating world.
All this liberation and equality is leading to increased bigotry among us.
I almost never mentioned who I was having sex with. You were sleeping with all those boys who made pie with you. Those were models, or friends, or people who contacted me online who wanted to help.
Me: Actually, I wrote about awkward dates, urban alienation, and my disappointment in a community full of brilliant, motivated, socially broken people.While you’re checking your racism, think about the way you talk to other guys who aren’t just like you.“Older men are really hot” is nowhere near as serious as racism, and it might seem like a compliment, but this guy doesn’t want to be defined by his age, any more than you’d expect someone to fancy you because of your postcode or shoe size.You don’t really want to run into one of your old flames – or one of theirs – and it’s good to go somewhere fresh to you both, free of distractions or associations with other dates.Yes, plenty of us have been around a bit, but don’t let it play on your mind when on a date with a new guy. They think they don’t have to, and in some sense, they’re correct.