If you’re even noticing this and feeling happy about it, then yep, get on the exclusivity train.
He rose to fame as the frontman of Blue, impressing adoring fans with his incredible vocal range.
But is it too soon for you guys to become exclusive?
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When to become exclusive with our partner is a delicate art unless the signs are there. Dating in the digital age means way more options than ever before, and some of us are reluctant to let them go to get serious with one person. Saying no to that pint and going for a spirit and mixer instead? Zero sarcastic comments underneath, even from your dimmest mates? One-night-stands and casual things use chewing gum in lieu of dental hygiene the morning after; if there’s a toothbrush, it’s a thing! If you can feel you’re not far away from a serious discussion about “where this is going” and your commitment antibodies haven’t caused anxiety, sweating, and an urge to ghost, you’re ready. You’re waiting for the trap door to open and the bad opinions be exposed, or lies to come to the fore, or, simply, that you’ll go off them. Bizarre texting rules and rituals, pecks on the cheek after dates, trying to hide your excitement – all very dull rules of courtship that are all too prevalent.
Not too long ago, you’d be chancing it and responding to that glad-eye from across the bar. But now, you turn away, leaving your admirer gawping at your back like a stunned mullet. You’re preening, so they won’t want anyone else – because neither do you! You’re much more chill because you assume you’ll be with them. Discussing any kind of future plans and using “we” is exclusivity code for “I have deleted Tinder and now you are my world.” Unless it’s “we are breaking up”, of course. Then X is for ‘xclusive and X marks the spot, so start digging for treasure. If you were multi-dating – no shame in it, it’s the 21st-century – but have already started backing off from them, or told them you’re seeing someone else and want to see how it develops, you’re already gone.
Which, in itself, is a sign they’re on your mind and, thus, maybe it’s time to make it official. If there’s nothing there, many potential couples would give up after the first disagreement and get straight back on Bumble.
But, if you have just proposed on Christmas and you're still not sure whether to tone down the flirting, The Guyliner has you covered. It’s not even that there’s anything wrong with these people, you just can’t face starting something new when you’re already quite far into a situation you don’t feel the need to change. Oh, so you usually go to the gym four nights a week, do you? And it’s not just the one you use to get to grips with the mould on the grouting – assuming you do this – it’s theirs! Early days you talked about boxsets, current affairs, sport, your favourite superheroes. Childhoods, families, hopes and dreams, your history of chlamydia – the lot. The first few dates, you spend half your time worrying the perfection can’t be real. If you’re still feeling good about them after your first barney, it’s time to delete the apps.
Nature will out, though, and even the biggest commitment-phobe would struggle to deny it’s time to talk exclusivity if three or more of these rear their head: Whether to their face or to someone else, if you’re calling them your boyfriend or girlfriend (and you’ve not already discussed being open) then monogamy is knocking at your door. Smoothie in the morning instead of your usual bacon sandwich? Instead of the forced smile you give to baristas, traffic wardens and your boss, this will be a genuine “uh oh, why are the sides of my mouth spasming, am I going to be OK” full-on smile. Most singletons will do anything they can to avoid a weekend that’s not packed to the hilt with plans – whatever it takes to keep the solitude at bay. Seeing disappointment etched on their face causes you actual, physical pain? In a supermarket and think, “Hey, X really loves that, maybe I’ll get them some,” or in a newsagent and see a magazine with a headline that X would be interested in? If you’re playing it about as cool as a hot teabag down the back of your sweater, then it’s cuffing time.
Left horrified by his own vocals, Lee quickly tells Simon: ‘I’m not warm,’ before doing a series of vocal exercises.
The excruciatingly awkward moment comes after Lee sparked romance romance he was dating Laura Anderson.
The One Love hitmaker left viewers watching behind their hands as he tried to impress the straight-talking beauty by wiggling his eyes at her, telling her he’d spoken with ghosts and proved he couldn’t do basic maths.