The problem is that the brain is wired to avoid pain and anxiety.
He sulked and pouted his way to the breakfast table, announcing, “I’m not going to school — and no one’s going to make me! Children need more than a parent who will talk about boundaries. This means that in whatever situation arises, you respond to your child with empathy, firmness, freedom, and consequences.
” Normally Jenna would have either tried to talk Bryan into attending school, or blown up at him in frustration. But, sometimes parents contribute to the problem by trying to justify their kid’s behavior, rather than addressing the issue.
So, we borrowed a surfboard and began to walk out to the beach where the surfers were gathering, with me carrying the board.
I was excited for her to take part in honoring her uncle Mark and was inspired by her fearlessness in wanting to paddle way out into the ocean with all the adults.
Setting boundaries with kids isn’t about “making” your child do anything.
It is much more about structuring your child’s existence so that he experiences the consequences of his behavior, thus leading him to be more responsible and caring. For example, smarting off becomes a cute sense of humor....
Her mind wandered back to the events of the morning. However, if you don’t choose to go to school, you are choosing to stay in your room all day with no TV.
Her eight-year-old son, Bryan, had begun the day with his usual waking-up shenanigans. But that’s something you’ll have to decide for yourself, like you did last week.”...
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