Plan far enough ahead of time that you can send out invitations and accept RSVPs. So that guests can soothe some of their anxiety about dating, you should make some beer and wine available, but not so much that it becomes a rager.
Party planner Camille Styles recommends planning for one drink per guest per hour, as a general rule.
She is also a writing instructor, editor and former elementary school teacher.
Throughout my short career as an 8minute Madame, I regularly received e-mails from singles over 40 wondering why there weren’t more events for our age group. But because soliciting the men to pay for the event in this manner would not be appropriate, I offered them a free coupon for the event.
Example: “Please plan an event that will enable me, a 56-year-old woman, to participate in the speed dating. I just turned 40 and after reading the age group for your event I was offended.” Over 40 myself, I empathized and promised these people—my people—that I would be the one to turn this ship around. Yes, typing it out makes it sound so much worse than it did in my head, but I wanted so much for this event to happen.
Try to find or create an arena where people can talk in relatively private spaces, at tables or on couches. This may be the largest part of organizing the event, since guests are coming with the goal of meeting other interesting guests.
Curate your guest list carefully, keeping an even gender split and remaining mindful of guests’ sexuality.
My Halloween-themed “Dating’s Not So Scary Party” at a brewery was well-attended and lively, but the management was soured by the unimpressive amount of beer purchased by participants. I asked friends and colleagues to alert their more distinguished single male friends. This is the point where I should have apologized to My Girls and cancelled the event.
The final event, though, was a two-month disaster in the making, and I blame myself. But I wanted so much for it to happen that I had another of my now-famous bad ideas. All I needed to do was search a reasonable radius for men in my target age range looking for women in that target age range.
You can start with your single friends and then branch out, asking people to invite single friends.
Beth Brindle, writing for the website of "TLC," recommends capping the guest list at around 20, and of course, keeping an even number.
“I’ll just show up then,” was her one-sentence, resigned e-mail reply. Speed-dating is one of many ways to meet a new love, but it is not right for everyone.
Three others cited sickness and a work obligation, and one was a no-show. When I consider why the concept attracted me so, and look back at the several men I met and dated—briefly—while serving as EO, it becomes clearer.
I spent more time researching dates for these women than I ever did for myself. In the 24 hours before the event, I was out four, almost five, women.