It can help your love life, and, besides, if there really was a god, wouldn’t first messages Though this post talks in detail about the content of people’s messages on Ok Cupid, all messages have been anonymized, with sender and recipient data and all IP and timestamp information stripped out.
In addition, our analysis program looked at messages only two or three words at a time, to track the success of certain words or phrases (like “what’s up” vs. The program then aggregated results by phrase before presenting the data.
Although the data shows this advice holds true for both sexes, it’s mostly directed at guys, because they are way more likely to talk about looks.
Is it better to move quickly into the first date, or should you take it slow and really get to know as much as you can about the person via text before meeting face to face?
To help figure out what the "right" amount of time to text is before going on a date, I reached out to online dating experts.
As we all know, people normally like compliments, but when they’re used as pick-up lines, before you’ve even met in person, they inevitably feel…ew.
Besides, when you tell a woman she’s beautiful, chances are you’re not.
So if you can’t bring yourself to deny the deity, consider opening yourself up to a whole wacky bunch of them.
But ideally you should just disbelieve the whole thing.
It’s so easy to fall into that grey area between meeting online and meeting up IRL.
Texting builds an almost intimate bond that can sometimes make it harder to meet face-to-face, because now your meeting is fraught and full of high stakes.
That being said, you should do some pre-date texting to check for deal-breakers, and more importantly, for safety reasons.
So, the question is, how long to text before having a first date is the right amount of time?
Maybe they set a more casual tone that people prefer, though I have to say, You had me at ‘what’s up’ doesn’t quite have the same ring to it.