I'm a proactive person; if there was some major hole in my life, I would fill it.If I felt lonely, I would make changes to not feel lonely.There is this weird assumption that people who don't date have been "burned" before in relationships, and while that may be true for some people, it isn't true for all of us non-daters. If anything, that's one more reason not to throw myself into the dating pool: I want to make sure whoever I do eventually date, should I decide to, is as nice as people I've dated in the past.
It's not like a "thing"; I'm not out on some crusade to be single.
It just happens that I'm not dating, and I'm not especially going out of my way to change that.
If I join a club or take up a new hobby, I'm going to do it for me, and only me. This is a sweet thought, so I can't really be mad at anyone who says this, but the thing is, I'm not worried.
Having some sort of weird dating agenda would just suck all the fun out of it. I think we all have plenty of people in the world that we would be happy with.
Really, I could not be happier for my friends who have found the person they belong with.
But I've never felt like I was on the outside looking in.But I notice that as comfortable as I am with that, there are some people who aren't.This can be both hilarious and exhausting, especially when they make their opinions known: This confounds me.I had one serious relationship in college, and broke it off when it started to look like we were going to change our plans to be near each other after graduation.It seemed stupid to limit ourselves when we were so young.There is something so inorganic and weird about being set up with somebody. I've been in love before and I'm not going to settle for anything less than that.