You can still date someone with children, but there is a way to be responsible without affecting the child.It is important to remember that you are dating him, his kids. If it’s just a casual situation or the beginning stages where the two of you are still trying to figure each other out, there’s no need to stress or obsess over his responsibilities. For those of you dating with kids, I understand that sometimes you don’t disclose that information because you want to have a social life and would like to keep certain things separate, but honestly, everything will eventually overlap once things pick up with the person you are dating.Whether they decide you're the coolest dude on the planet or punctuate every exchange with "You're not my real dad" depends on your confidence in yourself and your readiness for parenthood.
He was still a person, and I would feel bad if I didn’t give him a chance just because he had a kid. However, I learned there was another child later on, an infant only six months old.
I had to do the math because something wasn’t adding up.
When I was younger, during my college days, my friends and I swore that we would never date a man with children. Like me, he was interested in making healthy lifestyle choices.
This was mainly because growing up in my neighborhood, we were only accustomed to one type of single dad, and that was one who was barely present in his child’s life–an irresponsible I felt this way until I met a guy I really liked, only to find out that he had kids. We talked every day through phone calls and text messages. He was also an educated man who loved and looked fantastic in a good suit.
Whether you're the first man she has dated since her divorce or one of several, there's no reason to rush into a meet and greet with the kidlets.
For one thing, they need time to get used to the idea that their mother has her own needs for companionship.
Plus, the child’s mother may not be happy about a complete stranger being around their child so closely.
Also, be sure to observe what type of father he is. Does he make being a father a full-time job or is he a part-time dad? When you see what type of father he is, it allows you to see him in a different light.
They need to get comfortable with the fact that she's not going to bring someone into their lives who will do them harm or ship them off to a boarding school in Brazil.
They also need to appreciate that the inclusion of a new male figure in their lifestyle doesn't diminish the importance of their real dad.
You can tell when someone knows how to handle their business and when someone doesn’t.