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The following tips are for both men and women and they will hopefully spare you some of the failures that I went through.
Many online dating articles and products will try to convince you that what you write for your first message is the most important skill you will ever learn. For sure, what you write in your opening message and in your profile will dictate a lot of your success with online dating, but the single biggest factor is how someone responds to your profile picture. While your opening message’s content will determine if someone clicks through to your profile, it’s that little thumbnail image that will determine if they open the message at all.
I think everyone has at some point, and imagine how often you would do this if you received 20-50 a day instead of 1 or 2 a week. Most attractive women don’t even open all of their messages simply because they can’t be bothered to sift through them all.
You have to assume that a quick glance at the thumbnails is all she is going to use to decide whether to open the message, so if your main image isn’t the single best photo you own then you are doing yourself a disservice.
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The best way to demonstrate sincerity is to write your main bio in a loose conversational manner without trying to “big” yourself up.
This isn’t a CV; you aren’t auditioning for anyone, so don’t write it like you are trying to impress. Don’t be afraid of telling people who you are and what you love doing.
James Anderson is the Director of Content for Beyond
He has many years of dating and relationship experience with older women of various ages and loves helping other men and women find success.
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