“A single person looking for marriage is already limited by relying on others to help him or her out,” Ackerman told The Jewish Week via email.
The breakup had been painful, but Rivka was looking to get back on the dating circuit.
“I don’t think I ever would have seen myself going through an online forum to date,” said the recent Ivy League graduate living on the Upper West Side, citing a background in mixed-gender educational and social settings.
Weinberg advocates for the value of having an “ombudsman” in the dating-for-marriage process.
In contrast to what she characterizes as “environment of wandering,” created by apps in which daters keep seeking a more perfect person in an endless sea of possibilities and never allow a relationship to develop, a shadchan helps encourage communication and compromise to help a couple build a rapport.
(“Tell a story” with your dating profile with photos that reveal a range of interests, not “just five photos of your face,” he urges.) So far, Avitan says, 40 young eligibles have sought his services, and he’s a frequent speaker at Jewish singles events around the city. The 64-year-old, Pittsburgh-based shadchan has been a matchmaker for Jews of all stripes for most of her adult life and was involved in the founding of Saw You At Sinai.
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