The first year and a half, even two years, after my loss I was often exhausted.
I didn’t know what I wanted when I started online dating.
Being a nice girl, I sought a stable guy to settle down with.
Similarly, 14 months after his death, I found traveling to meet dates and figuring out new locales to be enervating.
I lacked the energy to enjoy trying new experiences.
But I really wanted to be on my own and meet different kinds of people for awhile.
I unnecessarily confused a few serious guys who wanted exclusive relationships, One fellow wrote me that after he lost his wife, he wanted a friend with benefits only. Another gentleman said he wants a girlfriend, but still wants to live separately. It helps to have a goal before shopping in the human mall of online dating.Having only the best intentions, George’s parents took me on a three week cruise of the Baltics four months after he died.I sleepwalked through much of it, too tired to enjoy the fast-paced sightseeing and being out of my comfort zone.At the same time, she concluded that a widower maybe looking to the heavens for permission from his dead wife to fall in love with someone new.A third input (author/marketer Abel Keogh) simply suggests that it is time to move on if a widower dedicates an online or literal shrine to his departed wife.I needed companionship NOW, which meant I needed it too much. I dated a couple guys who wanted me to change to meet their needs. But one year into my loss, I worried, “What’s wrong with me? ”If someone doesn’t recognize your wonderfulness, that’s their problem.