It's flattering, sure, but at the same time, it just doesn't work.A lot of guys have the mentality that they'll wait and they'll find the perfect woman.I went on a date with a 25-year-old who told me in the beginning, "You are the second person I've ever gone on a date with. It almost felt like an awkward high school setup; we met at this yogurt place.
" These younger guys try to persuade you that they really are mature, but they're not.
Some of them just latch on and are very persistent.
In short, I was crazy about him.” Then, for some reason, Ellie went for the big reveal: she told him she was still together with her high-school boyfriend. Anecdotally, the third-date confession has become so legendary that some people have come to fear the third date for what they’ll learn about the up-to-now-wonderful person smiling at them from across the table.“One girl said to me, ‘If I didn’t take my Xanax, I don’t know what I would do.’ Another started dishing about the eccentricities that required her to be on Klonopin.”“I have a friend who, on the third date, told the guy she was seeing that she had herpes, in anticipation of the fact that they might sleep together that night,” says Elizabeth, 30, a clinical social worker in New York.
“It turned out he did too,” so it didn’t matter—a near miss of a confessional catastrophe.
There is an immaturity level that prevails — like they are trying to promote the idea that they are still in college. At work, their food is provided for them and they can, essentially, act like they are still in college.
A lot of guys, even in their twenties and early thirties, have roommates even though they are making well over 0,000 a year. They are into their career, and most are quite immature.
On the condition of anonymity she agreed to tell all. If you are even an average or above average female, finding a date isn't an issue.
You have a lot of guys you can go on dates with, but what makes it difficult is finding a viable partner. They are extremely smart and logical and think, "I can apply that to a relationship and be rational and logical and that will work." They don't realize that as women, we can be emotional — a lot of guys don't have tolerance for that.
They're being taken care of at work, so why not be in a relationship where they're taken care of too?
It's so comical — to the point where when I go out, the first question is, "How old are you?
" On dates, guys wear flip-flops, shorts, and jeans. Guys who are successful, who dress up, are good-looking, and who aren't socially awkward are a rare breed. There are some like that in Silicon Valley, but I find a lot in San Francisco.