I wanted someone insatiable, someone whose eyes set ablaze when they talked about something important to them.I wanted someone who was a good friend, a motivator, someone who enjoyed being a blessing to those around them.
A symbiotic relationship where two people don't just grow together, but toward each other.
But how do you decide on the person, the deciding factor of your success?
But if I didn't meet someone while my favorite musician bathed me in a searing guitar solo? It's not that it's impossible to find love on dating apps—it certainly isn't. Instead of taking a route chosen for me, I considered my strengths and chose something fitted to them.
For some, dating apps will widen the pool and lead to success.
I wanted someone to invest their love in me for exactly the things that make me different.
For those looking for a simple standard, a dating app can provide you with a sea of able-bodied mates.
If you try to game love, you can expect love to game you.
Hookups and temporary flings can be easy to find on apps, but when deep connections keep evading you, it's not the app you question. It can chew on your confidence to the point where it's no longer raising your chances by widening the pool, it's hurting them by leaving you at half strength during the times that really matter.
"So if we agree that common interests and values are the types of things we're all looking for in relationships, how can we be expected to find them in an app that sorts for first-glance aesthetics and the ability to write one clever sentence about yourself? Your filters aren't set for love; they're set for lust, and their equation for it is faulty at best.
Your best chance at not getting eliminated before you even start is to conform, in which case you arrive safely in the dating pool without any of the things that make you, you.
I wanted more than a flat photo and a single sentence could provide.