I'm already committed to lying and saying that I've had girlfriends before, since saying that I never dated in high school or college will indicate to girls that I'm not desirable to other girls. The experience and confidence that comes with success in high school and college is incredibly useful, but the game is also different. I suggest worrying about yourself first and foremost and if someone comes along great, but I don't actively try to find a girlfriend because that ain't going to work. I don't think it mattered much though because that one kid that only played GTA has never gotten a ticket. I'm not a bad looking, but I just didn't start thinking about dating until halfway through college, it's been a slow progression learning about women, and I'm lightyears behind my peers who have accrued tons of experience already.You're going to need to find that confidence and comfort some other way, but no, you are not fucked. Jesus fuck if I see one more late teen to mid twenty year old act like their life is over because they missed out on something I'm going to lose it. I've never had a quote on quote "girlfriend" but I've dated plenty of girls/women in high school and then a few in college. In fact I think I have an advantage that I want to go above and beyond for this girl.
The great thing about college is that you are placed in all of these settings to meet new people, and if you don't take advantage of it, then dating after college can be pretty difficult.
My point wasn't that dating after college is impossibly hard. My point is that having 0 experience is a huge impediment. It'll be hard work, but you have at least 50 years of living to do, so get out there and do it. Everyone I know played racing games before we all learned how to drive cars.
I might as well not have dated for all I learned and got out of it.
Yet here I am, middle aged and fairly happily married with children.
Dating in high school is stupid because you're all on hormones and constantly changing, you don't really know who you are yet.
Dating in college is really hard, assuming you're committed to your studies, because everyone's hours are crazy, and you never really know when you'll have time.
Why is it that, even with all the serious relationships you've had since (and the serious relationship you're currently in) there's something about your first high school romance that has you reminiscing occasionally? There are a few reasons your high school boyfriend sticks out compared to say, Chad, your serious college boyfriend or Jason, your on-off boyfriend of the past five years. It might not seem like your high school romance was that exciting in retrospect, but when it's the first time you're sorting through feelings this intense, it's a huge deal.
"There's a lot at stake and a lot to lose and a lot to remember," says Dr.
So, no, life ain't over if you haven't dated by the end of college. A few friends have wondered how I never had anything happen for me despite being s great guy.
All I know is dating post-hs/college is even harder. Kind of drunkenly fooled around with a girl a few times during the third year of law school, but that was it.
Carl Pickhardt, private counseling psychologist and author.