Maybe I’ve got a good approach,” but it feels like a house of cards.I think you have to do some deep inner work and get the rest of your life together before you can really approach a woman with confidence.
Brett Mc Kay: You talked about what women find attractive, what your second chapter is about.
You need to understand what it’s like to be a woman to have a successful love life.
We talk about the traits that women look for in men. It’s about the science of dating and mating and relating and all that jazz.
We talk about what you should look for in a woman depending on your relationship goals. You’re a evolutionary psychologist that’s written several books published in leading journals but you ended up partnering with Tucker Max on this book.
I e-mailed him 2012 and just expressed my interest and how was a leading popular author of fratire so knowledgeable about my field. We got together for dinner actually within 2 weeks in Austin, Texas where Tucker lives, hit it off, had a lot of common interests and started lamenting the current state of dating advice to young men.
That really dominated this first dinner conversation and was the seed that launched the whole Mate book.
We don’t really know honestly what was taught in those context but at least, the elders of the tribe made an effort.
They did have these ritualized settings and events that tried to teach young men what they needed to know. Let’s get into some of the meat of your book about research-backed tips at what men can do to improve their dating life, their love life. I thought it was really interesting because a lot of success in dating is based on confidence because you say a lot of success in life is based on confidence. Is it something that if you get confident in one area of your life, it carries over to dating or is confidence domain specific? There’s a few life hacks you can use to boost your confidence temporarily in a particular domain but in the mate book, we’re really about what are the sustainable long term ways that you can increase your confidence particularly around women.
I laughed out loud several times while reading it, while also finding a lot of it quite fascinating.