Some guys out there will tell you that you need to get your "inner game" of confidence and self-esteem all taken care of before you can meet women and get more dates.
This is popular advice from people who don't understand how to train guys properly.
FAST SUCCESS TIP #2: "Conversation Jump-Start" Have you ever been talking to a woman for a few minutes, and as the energy of the conversation starts to dip a little (right about where you are running out of things to say) she just looks back to her friends and turns her back to you?
reason, the woman assumes you're picking up on her. All women are by now, and they all have a standard routine they use of being a little stand-offish to you until you can bust past this barrier.
Instead of complimenting a woman when you first meet her, take the opportunity to gently tease her.
Just look at the girl and ask her to tell you how everyone in her group knows each other.
You can say this: "Hey, before you run out of cool things to talk about, tell me... " If you listen closely, what she says will give you at least ten new subjects that you can then talk with her and her friends about - their jobs, their history, all the juicy stuff you can use for a good conversation. Plus, by getting her friends back in on the conversation, you avoid that "creepy guy hitting on their friend" situation.
(I think they call this "failure to launch.") I went out all the time and hung out with my other guy friends who had really attractive girlfriends, but I was the pitiful "lonely guy" of the group that would hardly ever get a phone number or date.
And if I did get a date, it always ended up as "friends" at the end, because I was such a "Nice Guy." But I'd also look at my guy friends who had cool girlfriends and think, "He's not all that great looking, or all that smart." So How In The World Were These Other Guys I asked myself that over and over again.
I started to get really frustrated, and then I even got angry with women over it.
I felt myself blaming them for my situation, even though I knew they weren't the problem.
Just find one thing about her that you can tease her about as an introduction.
Don't make it cruel, but make it clear that you're not intimidated by her beauty. If you're reading her body language well enough, you'll be able to take this as far as you want.
I call this technique "Tease to Please", and it works because it short-circuits a woman's usual defense mechanisms against meeting 'strange' men.