Let them discover who you are (and don’t swing to the other extreme, babbling about your life story and overwhelming them with too much information).* Have good manners.
Turn off your phone (the only reason you should be checking or answering your phone is if you’re a doctor). Gazing off into space while s/he is eating/talking isn’t good either, and makes it look like you want to get out as soon as possible. Don’t exaggerate or boast about your credentials, successes, etc.
Make eye contact, smile, raise your eyebrows–make a connection from across the room. Despite what everyone says about not judging a book by its cover, people who are more discriminating tend to be seen as more desirable probably because having standards shows that you value yourself and aren’t going for a date with whoever crosses your path.
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Thank God I never meet the women who are as hyper aware of current trends as the authors of this article seem to reference.
I’ve been dating rather recently, and it all comes down to old fashioned going with the flow, if you get along you do and if you don’t you don’t.
Dating is a tricky business, but here are some guidelines that’ll keep you in the mix. If you’re seeking a partner, you should be more willing to overlook initial shyness and awkwardness so that you can get to know a person over more than one date. You don’t have to hit the bars or the clubs to meet new people (although you can, if that’s something you enjoy doing anyway).
Most of us are looking for a mixture of fun and commitment, but it’s important to know where you stand so that you can figure out if your date is on the same page. Pursue interests and activities that mean a lot to you. Check forums, listings, classifieds, and Internet mailing lists (known as “listservs”) for local events or meetings that are likely to attract people with similar interests or passions. If approaching someone you’re interested in isn’t really your style, you can still be bold by making yourself look approachable and inviting. Don’t just date anyone who shows an inkling of interest in you.
Feel the change in energy during this conversation and revel in it.* Don’t forget to add a spark of humor to your conversations.
Humor can create a stronger bond of friendship between you two.
Tips* Think about what makes someone come home from a first date and tell their friends, “Wow, my date was awesome!
I had such a great time getting to know this person and can’t wait to see them again.” Things that make a date truly memorable are often found in the mental more than the physical connections.* Although this is not always possible, try to become friends with the person in group situations before moving into one-on-one dating.
This will help eliminate a lot of the awkwardness associated with first dates and give you a better sense of compatibility without any real commitment.