of her and her Turkish fiancé’s relationship: “I really didn’t know what I was getting myself into by dating him. I was also head over heels for him, incandescently and hopelessly in love with him.
I can however tell you the top three reasons why a holiday romance did not work out. Now, it does not take a rocket scientist to work out that when you live in two different countries, the odds are stacked against you.
Any man can have an affair even if he lives in the same house as you, so why do you think he is going to be honest when he lives in a different country?
Carolina said, “I don’t know even how to make it, but I can make ‘arepas’ for breakfast sometimes…” (Arepa is a flatbread made of made of ground maize dough or cooked flour prominent in the cuisine of Colombia and Venezuela.)Carolina looks at Turkish women and somehow hates them: “Maybe I’m jealous because they don’t do that much. We sometime feel abused but it is not because of a lack of language, it is because of a lack of knowledge and courage, and we don’t have the power to stand up and say NO WAY (because we love them sooo sooo soooo much).” Suleman from Pakistan wrote, “BTW, Turkish women are filled with grace and beauty.
No woman in the world can probably match the grace and warmth of a Turkish woman. I guess it’s the case everywhere you don’t like the things in abundance at home, while foreign things seem exotic.” My article reminded Jessica T.
If you both want to take the romance further, then one of you has to move countries. Unfortunately most of the relationships that I have seen fail, is because the women wants to keep 100% of her culture and the Turkish man wants to keep 100% of his Turkish culture.
For it to work, both of you has to meet in the middle and give something up.My piece last week was well-read, receiving quite a number of responses.No, not all of them praised Turkish men, but many did. ) Here is a selection of readers’ mails and tweets. The most hostile one on Twitter was from Nick A.: “Turkish columnists somehow manage the impossible – to write worse than Canadian ones.” He also asked his followers to “Prepare to laugh/cry/vomit...” because he did all three.He explained why my column was “the most popular” during the weekend as “it’s like a car accident.You can’t help but look at it.” Then we have Carolina Z., a Colombian woman married to a Turkish man: “As Latino women, we are used to being the center of attention. Unfortunately the romanticism of the Mexican telenovelas makes us think in that stupid way – as if you could pay your bills with love. We know we have to buy our own stuff, get our degree, work and buy a house and a car. However, it works well in Latin America, but we are here!Do not get involved in a holiday romance with a Turkish man simply because you can not handle it.