The idea is to seem interesting to talk to; listing where you were born is not that.
What this means when you message: Do not open with anything sexual—not a dick pic, not a pick up line, not even a sexually-adjacent compliment.
message inquiring about her willingness to have anal sex, while another friend had someone DM her on Facebook after seeing her on Tinder—they had not matched or spoken—after searching her name and the company she works for. There are entire Tumblr accounts and comedy shows dedicated to cataloguing the batshit things people (read: mostly men) do and say on Tinder.
Ask about what she does for work (it’s probably in her bio, so actually ask questions about Find something funny in one of her photos and comment on it, “oh my god that’s an amazing Halloween costume; last year I tried to get my friend to go as Kim Possible so I could be Ron Stoppable but we couldn’t find the right wig.” Whatever!
Believe it or not, dating headlines make online daters nervous. Along with your photos, dating profile headlines serve as your first impression and you want that impression to be a good one. You just have to come up with something clever that represents yourself well.
What this means for your bio: Stop putting clichéd shit here.
If you write “work hard play hard” or “looking for my partner in crime,” women are going to assume you’re similarly unoriginal in all aspects of your life, including in bed.
Either you pose holding a massive bottle of champagne at a club and seem like kind of an asshole, or you post a 2006 Facebook profile picture of you holding up the leaning tower of Pisa with your pointer finger and you come off as kind of a loser. What selfies—especially when there’s more than one—communicate is, “No one is willing to hang around me, so I’m the only person who takes photos of myself.” Which, might be true, but won’t sell you as a person to get to know. Put information in your bio about what you like to do—your job (just don’t use the words “grind” or “hustle” ever), your hobbies, whatever—just give an idea of who you are.
I’m not saying this to be mean, but rather to illustrate the line you’re trying to walk. Again, don’t use your bio to call out things you don’t like about women, “won’t date anyone with tattoos,” “if you don’t have a good ass swipe left, etc.” That’s douchey.
It’s boring, and I don’t know who is looking for a boring person to get drinks with.
Use your bio to posit a question, share a weird fact (that isn’t sexual) about yourself, or give an idea of who you are and what you like to do.
The bar is unfamthomably low for you guys; take advantage of that. Last, the easiest thing to do to convince people that you’re a nice, normal guy is to smile in your photos.