Update: I wrote this for women who want their ex boyfriend back, but if you’re a guy reading this, these signs your ex still loves you apply to you as well.
One of the most painful things that happens during a breakup is that most people say and do things that they don’t mean.
Because of all the painful emotions involved, exes usually act in confusing ways that can be hard to interpret.
The real sign that he doesn’t want to let go of you is whether he tries to hang out after saying he wants to stay friends. If he’s just trying to keep you around to feed his ego, you might want to avoid staying friends.
The more extreme his emotional reaction to your breakup, whether it’s love, hate or awful deep sadness, the more likely it is that love is lurking below the surface.
The fact that he feels the need to keep talking about the breakup shows that you’re still on his mind. Does he update you on how incredible his new yoga class is? It could be that your ex is trying to make you jealous.
Do his new hobbies faintly echo things he knows you would approve of? Or, more likely, he’s still hoping for your approval and wants you to notice he’s changed and be proud of him.
He might have genuinely might meant he wanted to be friends .
In practice, trying to stay friends with your ex is painful, since it keeps reopening the wound you are trying to heal and move on from.
It’s a definite sign your ex still loves you if he keeps popping into your life.