I chose to get a new ring that symbolized our relationship and because I knew that one day, my ring would be something special to pass down to my daughter.I would be interested to know what other widow(er)s have done with their wedding rings.
Don't disregard any expert's advice or take any action as a result of what you read here.
We're friends, not doctors, financial or legal professionals, and we're not "grief experts." But we are here, and we've been "there." I took mine off way before I started to date -- but I tend to get very long-lasting tans -- so I took mine off around the first anniversary, at the beginning of summer....
Again, I truly DO love and appreciate hearing from you. What you share here is meaningful to me and also helps inform the thousands of women who are reading these posts.
I did give him 98 percent – but he just bailed one weekend and I did not hear from him for 3 days…that was not acceptable and I knew he was not ready after 3 years.
If he makes her happy in countless wonderful ways, I advise that she try to understand that there can be a piece of him that still loves and honors his late wife.
I admit that as a coach who teaches women to date like a grownup, I assumed that it would be taken for granted that it is never okay to stick around and accept bad behavior or be treated like a doormat.
I often find myself worrying about losing my rings now and I honestly think I would lose it if that happened, so I wonder if I'll need to put them away someday soon.
I know there are a lot of options and I know eventually, I'll have to decide on one.
And my answer may surprise you: widowers are some of they best, most eligible, grownup men out there. Well, for starters, a man who had a good, long marriage can be a great catch! But they developed great communication and worked through them. You don’t know the situation – maybe she was sick a long time which often means he’s ready to start new…learn his story, don’t make assumptions. I can’t even imagine the agony of living through that at any time of one’s life; certainly any time before, say, our 80s.